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Okay my darlings, I have a question of etiquette for you. I apologise if this questions seems a little opaque but I know some of you who read this in RL and I'm trying to be tactful..
If you read something in an LJ of another person which happens to be about a friend of yours and which you think is:
a) derogatory and unfair and;
b) is not factually correct;
would it be okay to tell the friend about whom the comment has been made, about the post?
Both the owner of the LJ and the friend mentioned in the LJ post are people I know in RL.
I should also add that the person who owns the LJ and who has made the comment thinks I hate them and complained when I friended their LJ. I de-friended but I do still read their LJ because it has a kind of train-wreck fascination. For the record I don't actually hate them, I just find them somewhat delusional and there is a bit of a personality clash.
Normally I'd ignore this type of thing but the comments made are particularly unfair in this case and I'm irritated but wary of causing even more trouble.
Any comments, suggestions or thoughts welcome.
[Sub-question: Am I bad person for reading the public LJ of someone who asked me to de-friend them?]
If you read something in an LJ of another person which happens to be about a friend of yours and which you think is:
a) derogatory and unfair and;
b) is not factually correct;
would it be okay to tell the friend about whom the comment has been made, about the post?
Both the owner of the LJ and the friend mentioned in the LJ post are people I know in RL.
I should also add that the person who owns the LJ and who has made the comment thinks I hate them and complained when I friended their LJ. I de-friended but I do still read their LJ because it has a kind of train-wreck fascination. For the record I don't actually hate them, I just find them somewhat delusional and there is a bit of a personality clash.
Normally I'd ignore this type of thing but the comments made are particularly unfair in this case and I'm irritated but wary of causing even more trouble.
Any comments, suggestions or thoughts welcome.
[Sub-question: Am I bad person for reading the public LJ of someone who asked me to de-friend them?]
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If it's a public post....
[Sub-question: Am I bad person for reading the public LJ of someone who asked me to de-friend them?]
No, I don't think you are a bad person, because again--if that other person doesn't want someone reading what they have to say, they can friends-lock their posts. Otherwise they can exert no real control over the situation.
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Re: If it's a public post....
Thank you for your thoughts :) I'm kinda now veering towards speaking to someone close to the friend about it first and then taking things from there.
I've been feeling residual guilt over continuing to read this LJ so its good to know that most people seem to think I'm not being a complete bitch. I must admit I tend to be of the view that if you don't want people to read things you write, don't make them public but..*shrugs*
I feel a bit better now :)
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Re: If it's a public post....
Probably a good plan. My feelings are fairly heavily based on personal experience, I will admit--I recall a time when very mailicious things were being said about me and my intentions, once upon a time, in some public chat rooms, which I had no idea about until the repurcussions began to hit and I was completely blindsided by it. So, granted, it depends on the situation and the kinds of things being said, but if it's something you feel is important this person should know about, I know if it were me I'd want to hear it. And then make up my own mind if it was a battle worth fighting or simply stupidity worth ignoring :-)
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Re: If it's a public post....
I've decided to take a lateral approach after some thought on this subject. I think I'll speak to the Ex and suggest she stops telling lies to all and sundry as some of them are getting repeated and posted on the net. Then we'll see what happens :)
Thanks again for the thoughts. Sometimes it really helps to clarify your viewpoint by discussing it with people not involved.
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Re: If it's a public post....
I'm suddenly feeling guilty about reading your LJ, so thought I should say "hey". I am a friend of your lodger, and possibly have met you at least vaguely IRL, although my memory is rather hazy.
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I *think* that you've met in real life. You've certainly both been in the same place (the Dungeon, natch) at the same time while I was there...
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*laughing*
Yeah but it depends on how out of it I was...
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Heh. I know that I was fairly out of it, because I can remember![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
squirmelia and I burbling at each other.
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Re: *laughing*
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*looks quizzical*
How do you know The Lodger? *grins* He knows *everyone* so I apologise if we have been intro'd and I can't remember you. What's your name?
There is no need for you to feel guilty about reading my LJ. None of its particularly personal, its mainly fandom related stuff. I suspect its possibly quite boring :)
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Re: *looks quizzical*
My real name is Jodi. Some photos of me can be found here (http://squirmelia.fotopic.net/c31414.html). :)