LJ Etiquette

[evildrem]

Okay my darlings, I have a question of etiquette for you. I apologise if this questions seems a little opaque but I know some of you who read this in RL and I'm trying to be tactful..

If you read something in an LJ of another person which happens to be about a friend of yours and which you think is:
a) derogatory and unfair and;
b) is not factually correct;

would it be okay to tell the friend about whom the comment has been made, about the post?

Both the owner of the LJ and the friend mentioned in the LJ post are people I know in RL.

I should also add that the person who owns the LJ and who has made the comment thinks I hate them and complained when I friended their LJ. I de-friended but I do still read their LJ because it has a kind of train-wreck fascination. For the record I don't actually hate them, I just find them somewhat delusional and there is a bit of a personality clash.

Normally I'd ignore this type of thing but the comments made are particularly unfair in this case and I'm irritated but wary of causing even more trouble.

Any comments, suggestions or thoughts welcome.

[Sub-question: Am I bad person for reading the public LJ of someone who asked me to de-friend them?]

Comments

[tritorella.livejournal.com]

As you know, I have more than a passing interest in this kind of thing. My personal advice, based on bitter experience, is:

1. Don't tell the maligned party because not knowing about garbage like this is the least harmful option (the exception being if it's something LJ Abuse can deal with, in which case the complaint has to come from the maligned party, so they need to know)

2. Comment in their LJ if you can be arsed, but realise such supportive comments are often deleted because god forbid a contrary opinion be offered when you are involved in a slanderfest.

3. Let rip in your own LJ and defy the arseholes to take you on in your own territory. Usually the cowards won't.

And no, you're not a bad person - if these nits wanted to keep their bullshit private, they know their options. They shouldn't even ask you to defriend them in the first place, since LJ specifically does not give an user the power to do this. They can ban you from commenting in their LJ if they so wish, but if they want to keep shit private, they should do so.

I'm afraid to find out who the people involved in this are. If it's me in any shape or form, I just don't want to know about it.

*hugs*

[evildrem.livejournal.com]

Fear not darling, this has nothing whatsoever to do with you. Infact its not fandom related at all. Its to do with friends of mine where I live and the ongoing soap opera that is my peer group! *sighs*

There is no point in commenting her LJ as the person in question will simply throw a fit and then I'll have to deal with all their stupid friends attacking me and the whole thing will get blown out of all proportion. Believe me, you think you've got a bad rep in fandom, you should try having my rep amongst the alternative crowd where I live ;)

Thanks for the thoughts anyway!

[nmg.livejournal.com]

Right, now I know *exactly* who you're talking about. The last time she went off on one of her flights of fantasy (I'll mail you the URL if you want, but suffice to say it was about ), I commented to set the record straight and received various kneejerk replies from her coterie, and then warranted an entirely separate posting by herself in which she whinged about how rude it was for me to a) read her journal and b) post comments there that dared criticise her.

Delusional doesn't even begin to explain her beliefs, although train-wreck is a pretty good description.