LJ Etiquette

[evildrem]

Okay my darlings, I have a question of etiquette for you. I apologise if this questions seems a little opaque but I know some of you who read this in RL and I'm trying to be tactful..

If you read something in an LJ of another person which happens to be about a friend of yours and which you think is:
a) derogatory and unfair and;
b) is not factually correct;

would it be okay to tell the friend about whom the comment has been made, about the post?

Both the owner of the LJ and the friend mentioned in the LJ post are people I know in RL.

I should also add that the person who owns the LJ and who has made the comment thinks I hate them and complained when I friended their LJ. I de-friended but I do still read their LJ because it has a kind of train-wreck fascination. For the record I don't actually hate them, I just find them somewhat delusional and there is a bit of a personality clash.

Normally I'd ignore this type of thing but the comments made are particularly unfair in this case and I'm irritated but wary of causing even more trouble.

Any comments, suggestions or thoughts welcome.

[Sub-question: Am I bad person for reading the public LJ of someone who asked me to de-friend them?]

Comments

[hellblazer06.livejournal.com]

personally, I prefer it when the comments are directed to the person who made them, thus giving them the chance to remove the offending comments, explain, or apologise or whatever.

Having folks who don't like you reading your journal really sucks.

[tritorella.livejournal.com]

Having folks who don't like you reading your journal really sucks.

Welcome to the Internet. That's why LJ provides all that lovely friends locked stuff - people who bitch about other people 'stalking' them or harassing them because they read material on a publicly available website are just shit stirring.

filters smilters

[hellblazer06.livejournal.com]

Ah yes, but I can't lock my lj because several of my dearest friends persistently and stubbornly refuse to get an LJ, therefore anything I write for them is also available to the masses. I do try to edit my posts but there's always that one careless post that gets me in hot water.

I'm just saying, not all of us have the luxury of filters, and people who troll the ljs of folks they don't like should really get lives. Spend the time you'd otherwise waste raising money for Amenesty or something. I mean, really, some people.

Actually I don't troll anyone's LJ..

[evildrem.livejournal.com]

I read the person in question's LJ out of a ghoulish fascination more then anything else. Possibly not tasteful but then equally I take the view if people are going to spew their personal life all over the internet on their heads be it.

If you think my behaviour is appalling. Good for you :)

[nmg.livejournal.com]

I concur with the above, but would also like to add that reading this person's LJ is far preferable to having to deal with her in person.

Re: Actually I don't troll anyone's LJ..

[hellblazer06.livejournal.com]

I read the person in question's LJ out of a ghoulish fascination more then anything else. Possibly not tasteful but then equally I take the view if people are going to spew their personal life all over the internet on their heads be it.

Well, yes, there is the whole public domain sphere of it, but if celebs can get tetchy when they get caught out falling over the footpath, mere mortals can, too.

But if you do stumble over something you read that you don't like, well, as I said, either talk to the author so they have a chance to amend text that may very well be being taken out of context or misconstrued (the number of times folks have misread entries about other folks as being about themselves now runs into double figures) or at least give the author the chance to say, OMG, yes, I've made a mistake, and remove or retract before inviting the masses along for a flame war bbq.

That's all I'm saying. If a person reads stuff they know is likely to be contrary, well, it's an automatic caveat (I mean, why should a person have to edit their own lj for public nicety, freedom of speech and all that) and they should expect to be offended on occasion.

If a person posts something that goes down like cold vomit, which I do, lots, they can either delete the post, apologise for hasty and ill thought words (not everyone posts sober) or ignore
it and hope it'll all go away (it never does).

We all have snarky days :D We're all human.

Hope that makes sense. I was just trying to voice other sides. It's never a happy event when you post something snarky or clever or snippy and the wrong folks see it and over react. Sometimes we forget we're talking to a crowded room.