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Things are aardvark in a food mixer insane at the moment. I will update properly and answer comments in due course I promise.
During the meanwhile all UK flavoured people rejoice for Lo! The Texan Bar has returned to us. Verily have I missed its chewy goodness and I rejoice that I shall once again have the chance to lose a filling while munching on it's chocolatey goodness.
Oh and Darth Rich sent me another great bit of animation which I thought I'd share. It actually reminds me of my own response to post on particular subjects in fandom. Infact I could really use that as an icon for whenever I read any of the following:
1. Any description of a character's eyes which utilizes the words "jade", "orbs" "greens", "tawny", "golden" "pools", "amethyst", "moss coloured", "chocolate", "mahogany" etc etc: - Please just stop. I get that they have eyes. I get that their eyes are pretty. Now shush.
2. The assumption that being a bottom and/or submissive is a character flaw and makes you weak. Usually accompanied by the argument that writing [insert character name here] as a bottom and/or submissive is feminisation of that character and grossly OOC:- Usually spouted by people with little or no actual knowledge or experience of D/s or power exchange play. One of these days I shall write a learned response about how a preference for vanilla sex clearly indicates a repressed sexual preference for necrophilia, low self esteem as well as a delusional view of equality in relationships.
3. [insert pairing of choice] is the only possible and acceptable pairing. Any other pairing is immoral, wrong and gross character abuse: - Stop justifying your choice in porn. No one cares.
4. BDSM is abusive, unnatural and immature. All dominants are evil sadists: - I'm still at a loss as to how people can make comments like this and then be surprised when I am offended? Please also see response to Point 2.
5. [insert fandom of choice] was so much better back in the day when [insert name of various well known writers who left the fandom 2 years ago] were writing. This goes hand in hand with the 'I remember when it was all zines/mailing lists/hand carved stone tablets and I hate this move to [insert latest fandom medium]' conversation: - Just kill me now. Seriously.
6. I don't read slash for the sex:- Bzuh! No really? What do you read it for then? The relationship? But isn't that just sex with a prettier wrapper and less squelching noises? The close friendship between two men? Um, isn't that gen fic? I dunno, maybe I'm just not intellectual enough to grasp all the layered meanings behind it all..
7. Gorilla rape stories and lactating men:- I am scarred emotionally for life. Nuff said.
*grins*
And on that note I leave to go watch Whisper of The Heart
During the meanwhile all UK flavoured people rejoice for Lo! The Texan Bar has returned to us. Verily have I missed its chewy goodness and I rejoice that I shall once again have the chance to lose a filling while munching on it's chocolatey goodness.
Oh and Darth Rich sent me another great bit of animation which I thought I'd share. It actually reminds me of my own response to post on particular subjects in fandom. Infact I could really use that as an icon for whenever I read any of the following:
1. Any description of a character's eyes which utilizes the words "jade", "orbs" "greens", "tawny", "golden" "pools", "amethyst", "moss coloured", "chocolate", "mahogany" etc etc: - Please just stop. I get that they have eyes. I get that their eyes are pretty. Now shush.
2. The assumption that being a bottom and/or submissive is a character flaw and makes you weak. Usually accompanied by the argument that writing [insert character name here] as a bottom and/or submissive is feminisation of that character and grossly OOC:- Usually spouted by people with little or no actual knowledge or experience of D/s or power exchange play. One of these days I shall write a learned response about how a preference for vanilla sex clearly indicates a repressed sexual preference for necrophilia, low self esteem as well as a delusional view of equality in relationships.
3. [insert pairing of choice] is the only possible and acceptable pairing. Any other pairing is immoral, wrong and gross character abuse: - Stop justifying your choice in porn. No one cares.
4. BDSM is abusive, unnatural and immature. All dominants are evil sadists: - I'm still at a loss as to how people can make comments like this and then be surprised when I am offended? Please also see response to Point 2.
5. [insert fandom of choice] was so much better back in the day when [insert name of various well known writers who left the fandom 2 years ago] were writing. This goes hand in hand with the 'I remember when it was all zines/mailing lists/hand carved stone tablets and I hate this move to [insert latest fandom medium]' conversation: - Just kill me now. Seriously.
6. I don't read slash for the sex:- Bzuh! No really? What do you read it for then? The relationship? But isn't that just sex with a prettier wrapper and less squelching noises? The close friendship between two men? Um, isn't that gen fic? I dunno, maybe I'm just not intellectual enough to grasp all the layered meanings behind it all..
7. Gorilla rape stories and lactating men:- I am scarred emotionally for life. Nuff said.
*grins*
And on that note I leave to go watch Whisper of The Heart
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Oh, I so agree with this comment. I am personally a switch (I can top or bottom), but I much prefer being a bottom. Does this make me weak or *gack* feminine? I don't think so. On a day to day basis, I run our family, a private practice in psychotherapy, and most of the folks around me. There is research in psychology that indicates that being a bottom in a BDSM relationship affords the same benefits as practicing meditation. It takes one out of one's self and allows one to transcend normal every day concerns. In actually, the person who is playing the bottom often has more control than the top. The ideal top is exquisetely attuned to the bottom and is most concerned with givng him/her what they want.
"BDSM is abusive, unnatural and immature." I don't *think* so. There is a fine line between pain and pleasure, and there is nothing like the endorphin high of pain.
I agree with you, Em. I don't criticize vanilla, but there is something to be said for extremes of experience.