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..I find fandom depressing. There are many reasons for this but chief amongst these is the attitude towards the BDSM scene and related subjects.
I swear, if I read one more comment which suggests all BDSM in fanfic is character abuse, or refers to the practice as 'deviant behaviour' or implies that any story containing BDSM, has, by definition to be badly written and wrong, I shall punch someone in the nose.
I'd rather read a bad BDSM or slave!fic over one more story containing any of the following; cute children or pets, mind numbing descriptions of food and food preparation, detailed references to what clothing style, items and labels the characters are wearing or revoltingly sentimental holiday references.
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sidhe_woman, bigtitch and jhava where it was decided that my biggest *squick* would be a story where Methos and Duncan marry, settle down and adopt a small child who can magically turn into an adorable kitten which Methos carries around in his coat pocket, in between cooking amazing meals for his beloved Dunkie-Wunkie and them both going shopping for clothes which match each others eyes. At Thanksgiving.
*shudders*
N/B If upon reading this you are offended and think I am referring to you or anything you or your bestest friend, have said/written. *YES* I wrote this with specifically you/them in mind. Next week I plan to locate where you live and then scrawl abusive graffiti on your house.
I swear, if I read one more comment which suggests all BDSM in fanfic is character abuse, or refers to the practice as 'deviant behaviour' or implies that any story containing BDSM, has, by definition to be badly written and wrong, I shall punch someone in the nose.
I'd rather read a bad BDSM or slave!fic over one more story containing any of the following; cute children or pets, mind numbing descriptions of food and food preparation, detailed references to what clothing style, items and labels the characters are wearing or revoltingly sentimental holiday references.
I had this discussion a few months ago with
sidhe_woman, bigtitch and jhava where it was decided that my biggest *squick* would be a story where Methos and Duncan marry, settle down and adopt a small child who can magically turn into an adorable kitten which Methos carries around in his coat pocket, in between cooking amazing meals for his beloved Dunkie-Wunkie and them both going shopping for clothes which match each others eyes. At Thanksgiving. *shudders*
N/B If upon reading this you are offended and think I am referring to you or anything you or your bestest friend, have said/written. *YES* I wrote this with specifically you/them in mind. Next week I plan to locate where you live and then scrawl abusive graffiti on your house.
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People are simply dim-wits everywhere. One thing I've never understood is why someone can get upset with BDSM-- which is a consentual act between adults, and not get upset with h/c where a character gets raped or beaten/tortured against her/his will.
Yes there are bad stories out there. But it's not because it's about BDSM, but because the author has not written a good story ~~ her characterizations are off or her plot has holes in it or not developed well.
One thing that could be a problem is that the author doesn't have a good grip on what BDSM is, herself ~~ maybe she's interested and would like to know more, but is just missing something vital and, therefore, it's missing from the story. I've wrestled with that problem, myself. Because reading about it and experiencing it are two totally different things. And if you haven't had the experience yourself, how can you truthfully write about how someone else is feeling going through the experience?
Everyone has their likes and dislikes. And certain things squick all of us for one reason or another. I dislike major character death fic. Not a squick. Would just rather not read it. I like the idea of Duncan and Methos finding one another and living happily ever after, but nothing in canon suggests that would happen. Those two are absolutely volatile together.
And I love that about them too.