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Okay people, this has been prompted by a number of conversations I seem to have had recently.
*1* How do you deal with educating your partner in your sexual needs?
*2* How do you go about finding out if your partner is enjoying themselves or enjoying what you are doing?
*3* Would you be offended if your partner made suggestions on how to improve your sexual relationship?
I'd love some input here from all of you *pokes f-list* because it seems like information which is just not shared enough.
Personally I have little to no embarrassment threshold when it comes to discussing sex or what turns me on. Anyone who knows me personally, knows this. *grins* I am, however, aware that I am somewhat in the minority when it comes to this and also that at times that can be a bit intimidating.
Communication between sexual partners on what they want/don't want seems to be an area fraught with problems and emotional land mines. I really, strongly feel that this is something people can help everyone with by discussing openly.
So, I declare open season. Answer my 3 questions and then feel free to ask anything else you want. Let's broaden each other's minds and swop some tips!
*1* How do you deal with educating your partner in your sexual needs?
*2* How do you go about finding out if your partner is enjoying themselves or enjoying what you are doing?
*3* Would you be offended if your partner made suggestions on how to improve your sexual relationship?
I'd love some input here from all of you *pokes f-list* because it seems like information which is just not shared enough.
Personally I have little to no embarrassment threshold when it comes to discussing sex or what turns me on. Anyone who knows me personally, knows this. *grins* I am, however, aware that I am somewhat in the minority when it comes to this and also that at times that can be a bit intimidating.
Communication between sexual partners on what they want/don't want seems to be an area fraught with problems and emotional land mines. I really, strongly feel that this is something people can help everyone with by discussing openly.
So, I declare open season. Answer my 3 questions and then feel free to ask anything else you want. Let's broaden each other's minds and swop some tips!
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Your very secure in who you are sexually
..and that *rocks*! As you may have guessed I'm playing devils advocate at the moment because I really want to show that it is possible to have these sorts of conversations without the whole thing imploding into melodrama.
It seems common sense to be honest about your sexual responses but I know that I found it harder to be open when I was younger. Possibly everyone gets less hung up about these things as they get older...
..or maybe we just don't care. Dunno! *grins*
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Re: Your very secure in who you are sexually
I think that as you get older you realize that being sensitive about it is rather silly. That everyone has different things they like and dislike and sometimes compatibility in the sack is impossible. A person who likes it rough and crazy is NOT going to enjoy someone who only likes it slow and soft. While they might enjoy each others company eventually it will end up wanting ya know?
I've just given up caring whether or not its such a big deal *grin*. Perhaps a bit of both really.
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Do you think..
These days I'm veering towards the, 'depends what you mean by sex, response to that question but I'd be interested to hear what you think?
I've been lucy to never actually try and be in a relationship with someone I've been totally incompatible with sexually. All the people I couldn't click with sexually have been kinda one night stand affairs anyway. Has that happened with you?