Let's talk about sex..

[evildrem]

Okay people, this has been prompted by a number of conversations I seem to have had recently.

*1* How do you deal with educating your partner in your sexual needs?

*2* How do you go about finding out if your partner is enjoying themselves or enjoying what you are doing?

*3* Would you be offended if your partner made suggestions on how to improve your sexual relationship?

I'd love some input here from all of you *pokes f-list* because it seems like information which is just not shared enough.

Personally I have little to no embarrassment threshold when it comes to discussing sex or what turns me on. Anyone who knows me personally, knows this. *grins* I am, however, aware that I am somewhat in the minority when it comes to this and also that at times that can be a bit intimidating.

Communication between sexual partners on what they want/don't want seems to be an area fraught with problems and emotional land mines. I really, strongly feel that this is something people can help everyone with by discussing openly.

So, I declare open season. Answer my 3 questions and then feel free to ask anything else you want. Let's broaden each other's minds and swop some tips!

Comments

[cyberducks.livejournal.com]

I have yet to talk with any sexual partner about sex - I was married for 10 years and we never ever talked about sex. I am now divorced ( not because of sex, but because I didn't want to be his punching bag anymore when life frustrated him), and my current boyfriend and I are still in the honeymoon phase, but we don't talk about sex either. I guess maybe I should start...

I may be a tad reppressed, my favourite book of all time is "The Charioteer", where even the kisses are implied... And I have only recently discovered HL slash, which has been sort of a freeing experience in a weird way.