Let's talk about sex..

[evildrem]

Okay people, this has been prompted by a number of conversations I seem to have had recently.

*1* How do you deal with educating your partner in your sexual needs?

*2* How do you go about finding out if your partner is enjoying themselves or enjoying what you are doing?

*3* Would you be offended if your partner made suggestions on how to improve your sexual relationship?

I'd love some input here from all of you *pokes f-list* because it seems like information which is just not shared enough.

Personally I have little to no embarrassment threshold when it comes to discussing sex or what turns me on. Anyone who knows me personally, knows this. *grins* I am, however, aware that I am somewhat in the minority when it comes to this and also that at times that can be a bit intimidating.

Communication between sexual partners on what they want/don't want seems to be an area fraught with problems and emotional land mines. I really, strongly feel that this is something people can help everyone with by discussing openly.

So, I declare open season. Answer my 3 questions and then feel free to ask anything else you want. Let's broaden each other's minds and swop some tips!

Comments

[darthhellokitty.livejournal.com]

Communication's probably the best answer to the first two... some verbal, some figure-it-out-from-the-noises (although I never seem to get with anyone who makes really dramatic noises like in fic)... I have this theory that people often do for their partner what they'd like to have done for themselves, and that's always worth a try. :-)

I've nearly always been able to say "more over this way" - if I'm having sex with them, I should be able to talk with them.

I've had suggestions for how to improve things, and it hasn't hurt my feelings. More like finding out one's partner likes garlic, and so getting out more garlicky recipes. :-) There are one or two things I'm simply not very good at (I have a very small mouth, ahem), and so I try to make up for it in other ways.